There are countless ideas and myths that revolve around the ever-mysterious “Big O.” And while there are as many options getting to “the sexual finish line,” as there are vibrator make and models (ie. alot), there’s still a wealth of information that we aren’t privy to on the subject. The G-spot has eluded scientists, men and women alike and we are here to shed some light and rub massage oil on it all.
Although we often hear about the direct correlation between the G-spot and the best orgasm you could ever feel — if you’ve never felt it yourself, how do you know if it’s true? Or if it even exists? And If you’ve ever felt this way about the pleasure zone, you’re not alone. So, to help you get down to the bottom of it, we’ve compiled and debunked a list of seven of the most common G-spot myths that will hopefully get you on the right track.
Myth 1: The G Spot Doesn’t Exist
When something is discussed that you haven’t experienced firsthand, there’s a tendency to deem it to be untrue. We get it. However, this might not necessarily be the case with G-spot. Certified sex educator and CEO of Le Wand Alicia Sinclair says, “Named after Dr. Ernst Grafenberg – the urologist who discovered it – the G-Spot is a scientifically researched area that can give women incredible pleasure. All vulva-owners have one and are capable of ejaculating prostatic fluid.” However, this has been contested. A 2017 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, had scientists dissect the front portion of the vaginal wall of 13 female cadavers in search of the G-spot. In their research, they did not find any evidence of the G-spot’s existence, although this is most likely because it is not an actual organ!
Myth 2: You Can’t Find the G-Spot
The G-spot may still be a mystery to locate vven if you’re well-versed in the subject of sex. You may not even know you hit it because you aren’t familiar with where yours or your partner’s spot is. “Many people have difficulty finding their G-Spots, but with a little instruction, this pleasure- factory can be found,” Sinclair explains. “It is important to realize that this is an area stimulated through the vaginal wall, and it is easiest to identify once a vulva-owner is aroused. The G-spot can be found anteriorly (the roof of vagina) and depending on one’s G-spot anatomy, it will be found in different locations. The majority of vulva-owners will find their G-Spots right beyond their vaginal entrances, but the rest will find it either mid-way or further back by the cervix.”
She furthers her explanation with, “The area feels like corduroy ridges and is more pronounced (and feels more enjoyable) after stimulation causing its tissues to swell. The rigid tissue can be followed to the tail of the G-spot. When stimulated in a gentle ‘come hither’ motion, one can experience pleasing sensations while feeling the body of the prostate. Also, since the urethral meatus (the hole that urine exits the body) is generally the head of the G-spot, many women like the way it feels when this area is stimulated.”
Myth 3: In and Out Penetrative Sex Is the Best Way to Achieve a G-Spot Orgasm
It’s often assumed that the G-spot is found deep down in the vagina, so it may seem logical to think that those types of orgasms can only be aroused through penetrative sex. However according to Dr. Zhana Vrangalova NYU professor of Human Sexuality and co-host of the podcast “Science of Sex”, that couldn’t be farther from the truth. “While it is certainly possible for G-spot orgasms to occur during penetration — especially during certain positions, penile curvatures, and motion patterns — the simple in-and-out motion is not a reliable method for achieving this for the vast majority of vagina owners,” she said. “You typically need either fingers or curved toys that are moved in sort of a come-hither or up-and-down motion. Add vibration to it, and it can feel even more amazing.” One of the best vibrating toys for this effect she says is LELO’S Ina Wave which is a rabbit-style vibrator with a twist. The Ina Wave’s internal part also moves in that wavey up-and-down pattern so that it hits the G-spot just right.
Myth 4: There are Multiple G-Spots
The G-spot may be believed to have multiple location points. However, Dr. David Shusterman, MD – award-winning urologist and founder of NY Urology and NYMD Center – is here to say it is not. “G-spot myths, in general, revolve around this idea that there are numerous G-spot locations: The cervical, vagina wall, anal, and clitoral. However, there is only one actual G-spot, which is clitoral arousal. People need to stop believing that there are numerous locations because there is a clear difference between sensation and the location that actually reaches climax such as the clitoral.”
More Orgasms Better Health
It is said that orgasms (G-spot or otherwise) have many health benefits and more women should seek them in their sexual journey. It can be said that orgasms give a woman more body confidence. Studies show that women who have more orgasms are more confident in their own skin offering better skin and less insecurity about their weight and size.
And one of the main benefits of having a great orgasm is good sleep and rest. Orgasms not only boost sleep but also have the potential to improve the quality of sleep. The post-sex glow is a real thing for women. In fact, orgasms are shown to invigorate the blood in the body, which allows more oxygen to reach your face. That oxygen boosts collagen production and gives women a rosy and flushed look. And with frequent sex, you can also prevent skin breakouts. Time to throw out those expensive face cleansers, in favor of an orgasm.
Further, more orgasms have been shown to aid in deterring aging in women. Orgasms naturally increase estrogen production, which prevents aging and also boosts the immune system. Regular sex also regularises the period cycle. A report published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy depicted that frequent sex is connected to a smaller hip and waist circumference for both men and women. The report also claims, that apart from keeping people in shape, frequent sexual activity also reduces people’s risk of heart disease and type 2 diabetes.
The G-Spot: A Point of Controversy
Overall, the G-spot will likely remain a controversial topic due to the difficulties that come with measuring and interpreting reported experiences of G-spot pleasure. However, couples and women interested in exploring the G-spot do not need scientific research or proof to validate their experience. Bottom Line: If a woman believes she’s found her G-spot, that should outweigh any lack of science. And, if someone claims to have experienced G-spot pleasure, it seems unwise to shut her down. That feels like going backward.
Equally, people who cannot find their G-spot do not need to keep searching for it. People can still enjoy pleasurable sex without the G-spot. Partners should communicate openly, discuss their plans and goals, and then choose the strategies that work best for them.
However, one thing that should not be ignored is a woman’s sexual pleasure, especially if that pleasure arises from G-spot orgasm.
